How to talk to your girlfriend when she’s pregnant
I know you are thinking, ‘what the hell, it’s a good time to talk’.
But the truth is you may have to do it more than once.
Here are some tips for how to talk about pregnancy and your girlfriend during a stressful time: Don’t make it personal If you are worried about your girlfriend’s pregnancy, she may not be interested in talking about it.
Instead, focus on how you are feeling and what you want from your relationship.
If she is open to talking, make it about something positive.
For example, talk about the things that are positive about your relationship, such as how you get along with your girlfriend.
If you feel like you are on the cusp of a baby, try telling her that you are not pregnant, and instead want to start talking about how you feel about having a baby.
The more positive things she says about you, the better.
Try to keep the conversation in-house, rather than having your girlfriend talk about you from her phone.
If your girlfriend is uncomfortable talking about her pregnancy, don’t.
Make the conversation more personal, and say things like, ‘I’m here to support you and make sure that everything goes well, so we don’t feel pressured.’
Keep in mind that she might not want to hear anything about her health, so make it something that will not make her feel uncomfortable.
Be respectful Don’t use language that she is used to, and try not to make her upset.
Instead talk about her feelings and your relationship in a way that is respectful, so she can be happy with the outcome.
Don’t say ‘I love you’ or ‘I wish you were here’ If you say something that she feels is rude, you are reinforcing negative attitudes.
For instance, ‘You’re the nicest girl in the world.’
This can make her think you are trying to be mean.
Try saying ‘I want to be with you forever.’
Instead, say something like, “I hope that you can be with me forever, even if it means that I have to leave you behind.”
Be kind and considerate This can be tricky, because she may feel uncomfortable about this topic.
It is better to be kind to her than to be rude.
Instead of saying something like ‘I don’t know what you’re talking about’, say something less personal, such like, “‘I just think it’s rude.’
You are not going to be able to talk her out of her worries.
Be aware that you might be talking to someone who is not her best friend.
Don.t make this about you.
It could make her uncomfortable, so talk to someone you are comfortable talking to, or someone you know.
You might want to call someone you trust to help.
This is especially true if you are pregnant or you feel vulnerable.
You should also consider having a trusted friend who is a pregnancy counsellor.
These people can provide support and help.
Make a plan for when you can talk If you’re worried that your girlfriend will feel uncomfortable talking, try to find a time when she is able to relax, and talk about it again.
For some women, a day is better than a month.
For others, it might be better to wait a month or more.
Make sure that you know what the best time to speak to her is.
This can include a few days after you and your boyfriend have sex, or during a time of stress such as a new job interview.
Talk to your partner If you need to talk or if you have a partner who is feeling anxious, you can try asking her to sit down.
Donate time Your partner may be in a good place right now, and if you don’t want to talk, you don.
You can donate time for her to talk and think about your pregnancy.
For many, this might mean talking on the phone or texting, and she will probably be more comfortable than you.
If this is something you need, consider donating to an organisation such as Pregnancy UK, the British Pregnancy Advisory Service or the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists.
You could also talk to a friend or family member to help you figure out what is best for you.
Share what you know When you are ready to talk with your partner, ask her to tell you the story of how she was affected by the pregnancy.
If there is an episode of the pregnancy that is still upsetting, or you are uncomfortable talking to her about it, share the details with her.
You may be surprised at how different she will be to how she normally is.
Keep it positive Talk about how your pregnancy is going and how you and she are getting along.
Be honest and frank, even though it may seem awkward.
It might be difficult for you to do this, but you should be proud of what you are saying and happy for your partner to hear it.
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